Answer: because I don’t believe you get to whinge about something unless you’re prepared to get in and have a go & make a difference. I suppose I could stop wanting to make things better/different? But indifference does NOT appeal.

I just need better strategies for dealing with people - especially BULLIES. I don’t know what to do with bullies. If I back down I feel - well, bullied - and if I attempt to stand up to them I think I come across as being - ummmm - rude?

I also find it really difficult when other people don’t stay focused and on task - which makes me seem like I’m being pushy. If I’m in a meeting, I want to get the things done that need to be done, get tasks assigned, and get it sorted.

Other people want to share every little experience from years ago that may have related in some minor and peripheral way to the discussion at hand. Or tell me how “We tried it that way once (and therefore we are never going to revisit the issue regardless of what may have changed.”)

My new mantra for such meetings will be “That’s very nice, but how is it relevant?”

Or I could just not go, not be involved, and go back to having no social interaction except online, hmmm?

Hi, I’m Caity, and I’m an ASPIE….
I wish I’d know that years ago - it would have saved me from a lot of “life lessons” … I’m going to go curl up in bed and whimper now.

Viv Stanshall from the Bonzo Dog Doo-Dah band said it best:

My pink half of the drainpipe
Separates me from the incredibly fascinating story of your life and every day to day event in all its minute and tedious attention to detail… And was it a Thursday or a Wednesday?  Or, oh, no, it wasn’t though.  Oh,who cares anyway because I do not so Norman, if you’re normal, I intend to be a freak for the rest of my life, and I shall baffle you with cabbages and rhinoceroses in the kitchen and incessant quotations from “Now We Are Six” through the mouthpiece of Lord Snooty’s giant poisoned electric head.
So
theeeeeere………